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Gay Men’s Sexual Confidence: Unpacking Your Arousal Template [Free Download]
- Michael Pezzullo
- 3 days ago
- 1 min read
Updated: 1 day ago
Sexual confidence doesn’t come from “performing better” or chasing some idea of perfection—it comes from understanding yourself. In Part 1 of this series, we looked at how your sexual history shaped you. Now, in Part 2, we’re turning to gay men's arousal templates: the unique set of physical, emotional, and relational factors that turn you on.
For many gay men, arousal is both simple and complex. You might know exactly what excites you, while at the same time feeling confused or even conflicted about certain desires. That’s completely normal. Exploring your template is about curiosity, not judgment.
To guide you, I’ve created a free downloadable worksheet: 👉 Gay Men’s Arousal Template Questionnaire
This resource will help you reflect on:
The physical traits and scenarios that spark your interest
How intimacy and connection play into your sex life
Your sexual functioning and satisfaction
Any feelings of shame, confusion, or pride connected to your desires
Understanding your arousal template is a powerful step toward building sexual confidence, deeper intimacy, and more satisfying experiences. If you’d like to learn more about my practice, you can book a complementary consultation. You can also read more about my psychotherapy work with gay men.