This Work May Be Right For You If:
• You feel stuck in unhealthy dating or relationship patterns
• You struggle with anxiety, self-worth, or internalized shame
• You want intimacy but fear rejection or abandonment
• You feel pressure to always appear confident or desirable
• You rely on sex, validation, or substances to regulate emotions
• You’re successful in life — but disconnected emotionally
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Many gay men learned early that acceptance could be conditional. Therapy becomes a place where that pattern can finally shift.
What Brings Gay Men To Therapy
As a gay therapist in Los Angeles, I work with clients navigating:
Relationships & Dating
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Repeating the same relational dynamics
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Fear of commitment or closeness
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Open relationship stress
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Difficulty sustaining intimacy
Self-Worth & Shame
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Internalized criticism
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Feeling "not enough"
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Comparison within the gay community
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Perfectionism
Anxiety & Emotional Regulation
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Social anxiety
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Overthinking
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Emotional shutdown
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Fear of rejection
Party & Validation Cycles
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Using sex or attention to feel valued
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Party-and-play patterns
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Emotional comedowns after connection
Trauma
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Bullying of exclusion growing up
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Family rejection
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Sexual trauma
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Relationship instability
Keep In Mind:
Often, Clints come in simply knowing something isn't right--but I don't know why. That's enough.
How Therapy Helps
Therapy Can Help You:
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✔ Break repetitive relationship patterns
✔ Build deeper emotional intimacy
✔ Reduce shame and self-criticism
✔ Set boundaries without losing connection
✔ Feel more confident in dating
✔ Understand emotional triggers
✔ Feel less alone internally
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Therapy isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about becoming less driven by old survival patterns.
My Approach For Gay Men
Gay men often grow up learning to adapt quickly. Those adaptations can later show up as:
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Emotional guardedness
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Performance-based self-worth
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Difficulty trusting closeness
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My approach is:
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Direct
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Insight-oriented
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Emotionally focused
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I integrate:
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EMDR
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Attachment-based therapy
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Relational therapy
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Trauma-informed work
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Sessions are collaborative and tailored — not formulaic.
Therapy for Gay Men in Los Angeles:
Living in Los Angeles offers opportunity — but also unique pressure. Many clients are navigating:
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Appearance culture
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Dating app burnout
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Social comparison
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Career-driven identity
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Fast-paced social environments
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Therapy offers a grounded space within that intensity.
Clients Often Leave Therapy With:
• More stable relationships
• Increased emotional confidence
• Reduced shame
• Clearer boundaries
• Greater self-trust
• A deeper sense of belonging
Not by changing who they are —
But by understanding what shaped them.
I work with clients throughout West Hollywood, Santa Monica, Silver Lake, Beverly Hills
Both in-person and online sessions are available.
