"“There’s no better way to change the other than to change ourselves."

We all seek connection.

My perspective is based on attachment theory—that we all long for connection, nurturing and security above all else. That our earliest relationships with our caregivers dramatically inform your relationships in adulthood.

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What am I longing for?

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You need to ask yourself: what am I hoping to get out of my relationship? How do I see my role as a partner? In our sessions, I won’t just let you re-hash arguments you’ve already had at home. We’ll figure out the root causes of your disconnection.

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Life is balance of learning to get your needs met by others—and meeting your own needs. But many of us simply don’t know how to get our relational needs met. Or we don’t know how to voice what we want. I'll help you find the courage to state yours.

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Most couples wait too long.

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In my experience, most couples delay doing this work. They wait until they find themselves in some sort of crisis to begin therapy. It doesn't have to be that way. If you're not sure what to expect, here are some questions I might ask you in a couples session:

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- What were your first impressions of your partner? What attracted you to them?

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- What have been the happiest times in your relationship? What have been the most challenging times?

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- How do you express affection toward your partner? How would you like them to express it to you?

- How do you handle conflict in your relationship? And how do you rejoin afterward?

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- How would you describe your attachment style: secure, anxious or avoidant?