You’re Attracted to the Wrong Men
A small, private group for gay men who are tired of repeating the same patterns in dating and relationships—and want to actually change them.
Enrollment is currently closed.
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The Gay Dating Trap:
Most gay men think they just haven’t met the right person yet.
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What do they do? They...
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losing interest once someone likes you
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feeling drawn to emotionally unavailable men
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chasing chemistry that doesn’t last
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or getting stuck in something that never fully develops
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That's not random. It’s a pattern.
And it doesn’t change just by thinking about it on your own.
Why Gay Men Get Stuck
You probably learned how to relate to other men before you ever fully understood yourself.
For most gay men, that meant:
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hiding parts of yourself growing up
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managing how you’re perceived
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learning to read others more than expressing yourself
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So now in dating, you’re reacting… not choosing. That’s why:
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attraction feels confusing
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“spark” comes and goes
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and the same dynamics repeat
Why This Doesn't Change
Most people think if they understand their patterns, they’ll change them. But insight alone doesn’t change how you relate to people.
Because the pattern doesn’t just live in your thoughts.
It shows up in every interaction--every swipe, flirtation, or first date.
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To break the pattern, you don't need just talk--you need an experience.
Why Group Therapy Works
This is where group work is different. You don’t just talk about your patterns—you see them happen in real time.
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how you relate
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what you avoid
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what you feel but don’t say
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how you respond to attention, distance, or connection
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And instead of guessing what’s going on, you get direct, honest feedback--not surface-level advice. Actual awareness in the moment it’s happening.
What You Can Expect:
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Weekly 90-minute sessions
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A consistent small group (no drop-ins)
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Direct feedback + real-time insight
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Deeper understanding of your attraction patterns
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The ability to actually sustain interest and connection
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6–8 men max
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Weekly virtual sessions (90 minutes)
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Initial 8-week commitment
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Most members stay longer as the work deepens
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$90 per session
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This is the most affordable way to work with me consistently—while also benefiting from the perspective and feedback of others working through similar patterns.
Why You’re Still Stuck (And What Actually Changes It)
If you’re not sure what group work actually looks like—or whether it would help—this will give you a clear sense of it. This isn’t a lecture or people taking turns telling their life story. We slow things down in real time. That’s where the insight comes from. Actually seeing the pattern as it’s happening.
Are You A Good Fit?
This group is a strong fit if:
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You lose interest quickly once someone shows interest in you
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You’re consistently drawn to emotionally unavailable men
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You want a relationship—but something always falls apart
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You overthink attraction, chemistry, and “the spark”
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You’ve done therapy before… but still feel stuck in the same patterns
This group is not for you if:
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You’re looking for quick dating advice or surface-level tips
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You’re not open to honest feedback
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You’re not willing to show up consistently
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You don't do well in group dynamics or get along well with others
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You have an unmanaged mental health issue
