Start Here: Therapy & Coaching for Gay Men
If something in your relationships, sex life, or emotional world isn’t working the way it used to, you're not alone.
Most men who arrive here aren’t “broken.”
They’ve simply reached a point where something feels off.
This page will help you figure out where to begin.
Common Reasons Gay Men Seek Help
If you're here, there's a good chance something in your life feels stuck. Maybe it's relationships, maybe it's confidence or maybe it’s a pattern you can’t seem to break.
A lot of the men who find my work have spent years trying to figure things out on their own. This page will help you quickly understand: what I do, who I work best with and how to get started.
Where Do You Want to Begin?
Most men who land here aren't completely sure what they need yet.
Start with the topic that fits what you're dealing with.
Sex Feels Complicated
Dating Feels Exhausting
• emotionally unavailable partners
• exhausted by the apps
• repeating the same dynamics
→ Explore Gay Couples Therapy
Emotional Disconnection
• feeling numb or flat
• difficulty opening up
• struggling to feel close
→ Explore Individual Therapy
Past Experiences Still Show Up
• family rejection
• shame around sexuality
• unresolved trauma
→ Explore Trauma Therapy
Chemsex / Party & Play
• sex tied to substances
• difficulty stopping once it starts
• feeling disconnected after
→ Explore Chemsex
Internalized Shame
• navigating identity and confidence
• family dynamics and early experiences
• building emotional resilience
→ Explore Therapy for Gay Men
Lacking Direction
• dating patterns that won’t change
• wanting strategy and accountability
• available anywhere in the world
→ Explore Coaching for Gay Men
Talk Therapy Wasn't Enough
• past experiences still triggering reactions
• trauma affecting intimacy or trust
• feeling stuck despite insight
→ Explore EMDR
Sex Feels Compulsive
• compulsive hookups or apps
• difficulty stopping certain behaviors
• sex interfering with relationships or work
→ Explore Sex Addiction Therapy for Gay Men
Partying has gone too far
• relying on substances to cope
• struggling to cut back
• using drugs or alcohol to socialize or connect
→ Explore Substance Use Therapy
Exploring Non-Monogamy
• jealousy or resentment showing up
• unequal rules or expectations
• difficulty maintaining trust
→ Explore Open Relationship Therapy
Haunted by Religious Trauma
• shame around sexuality
• religious or family rejection
• struggling to trust yourself
→ Explore Conversion Therapy Recovery
The Questions Gay Men Don’t Usually Ask Out Loud
Starting therapy isn’t just about emotions — it’s about navigating real life inside a small, socially connected gay world. Here are some of the questions many men think…but hesitate to ask.
What if I’m attracted to my therapist?
It happens. In fact, in same-gender therapy, it’s not uncommon. Attraction doesn’t derail therapy — secrecy does. Therapy is one of the few places where feelings like attraction can be talked about honestly without needing to act on them or feel ashamed. When handled openly, it often becomes useful material for understanding how you relate to closeness, intimacy, and vulnerability.
What if I run into you at a party?
Gay communities are small. Especially in cities like Los Angeles. If we cross paths socially, your privacy comes first. I won’t acknowledge you unless you acknowledge me. And if you do, I’ll follow your lead — whether that means a quick hello or complete discretion. Your therapy stays yours.
What if we have political differences?
Therapy isn’t about ideological alignment. t’s about understanding you. You don’t need to share my views — or assume mine — for therapy to work. My role isn’t to agree with you, but to help you think clearly, feel honestly, and understand yourself more deeply. Growth doesn’t require sameness.
What if we know the same people?
In tight-knit social circles, overlap happens. Professional boundaries and confidentiality are non-negotiable. Your presence in therapy is private — regardless of shared networks. You’ll never be discussed, hinted at, or acknowledged outside the room.
Can I talk about my sex life in graphic detail?
Yes. Therapy isn’t a place where you have to sanitize your reality. Whether you want to talk about desire, kink, open relationships, porn use, fantasies, or experiences you’re unsure how to make sense of — this is a space where the full picture matters. Understanding your sexuality requires talking about it in real terms, not euphemisms.
Work With Me:
Don't Wait For A Crisis
You don’t need to have a perfect explanation to begin. Many gay men start therapy simply knowing that something in their relationships, emotional life, or sense of connection isn’t working the way they want it to.
I specialize in working with gay men navigating:
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emotional disconnection
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intimacy challenges
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sexual concerns
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relationship patterns
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trauma-related shutdown
Start With A No-Pressure Consultation
You don't need a reason to start. Many men start therapy simply noticing recurring relationship patterns, emotional flatness, difficulty connecting or uncertainty about what they want. Therapy becomes a space to understand these patterns — and begin shifting them.
I provide therapy to clients locally in Los Angeles and virtually throughout California and Florida. Coaching is available internationally. If you’re ready to explore where to begin, you can schedule a consultation today.
